Sunday, April 20, 2008

Sorcerer's Apprentice

Four days of vacation are great.  Karen and I haven't been on a 
vacation since last May, when my mom took a bad fall.  Many
changes; way too much medical responsibility; way too much
involvement into her care, wishes etc.  Hint to the wise,
talk early to your children and keep talking.  We finally had 
the space to go and do something for us!  Great beaches, hiking 
nature trails, an afternoon nap; laps in  the pool until the 
grandma squad interrupted us with the daily "walk across " and 
asked us to join in.  Oh well - we swim laps and they bound back and 
forth.  Just giggle and leave: We're never going to be that old - are we?
Enough of that - my post is a photo taken not to long ago of some 
brushes with a mystery setting of tea candles - of course some 
drama provided by Photoshop.


Gwen Buchanan said...

Bill...Sounds like it was a well deserved and much needed get away.. except for the funny visual you give ... sorry I'm smilin'.... no really I'm laughin'...... oh please be right... we can never ever get that old and silly... and funny! oh but wish all you may... time waits for no one... John always warns if it comes to that he's doing a "Thelma and Louise"...

Now I became so amused by your story that I forgot to look at the Photograph... thanks for the post...

I'm sorry about your mom though...

Bill Evertson said...

I don't want to give the wrong impression. We had to move Mom to a nursing facility. Something she never wanted but at 91 there are too many medical problems to manage with home help care. Thanks for your thoughts. I agree with John, we need better solutions.

Gwen Buchanan said...

Oh no wrong impression taken at all.. you spoke well; tough decisions have to be made at times and everyone has to decide how to best live their lives and it is different for everyone...
I looked deeper into your photograph this time and it's stunningly beautiful! I had to look deeper and that is good I like things to be revealed with surprise..... your brushes!

doudy said...

Hello Bill,
and thanx very much, I was very touched by your concern, really appreciate it.
I am sorry for your mom, I had to take the same tough decision for my grand-father a while ago..; my Mother was against it, but it turned to be wise one..his better now.
By the way very nice painting.
and very cool words "talk early to your children and keep talking"
i'll remember that :)

Teri Prestash said...

hey bloggin' buddy,
get off your can and post some beauty from BI.
I have gotten some encouraging comments from bloggers on my t-shirts. I'm sure they came through you. Thanks! That's just the kind of inspiration I need to keep on keepin' on!

Sandy said...

Wow Bill, beautiful photo.

I know it is hard for many with their parents aging. Both of mine passed before we got to the point of nursing homes and so did my husband's. In an odd way (I know this sounds not nice)..I considered it well...hmmmm..a blessing in disguise as much as I miss them however, if I could have them back that would be even better.

gosh I love this photo.

Glad you had time for some relaxation and fun time with the granny's..haha.

Bill Evertson said...

thanks for all the great comments - Doudy, great that you are among the living - don't go off line without a warning. Teri - I'll work on Block island. Sandy- thanks for your input, you may be blessed. Dementia is so strange, I don't want to remember her this way, but it's fate. Gwen, thanks for the thoughtful comments and glad you found the brushes.

laura said...

This image makes me think of Merlin, for some reason!
"Afternoon naps"!!! O boy, that's in my top three, along with "twilight at the dock" and "latenight in the hot tub (with champagne)."
Bill, I really sympathize with your situation. My dad's bedridden, has been for 2 years, and needs lots of care, which my mom supplies. She refuses outside "help" and the emotional toll on us all is unbelievable. Not that it's all about me, but I've experienced more emotional states in the last two years than in all the ones before.
The wear and tear on all parties is just so sad.

Mineke Reinders said...

I meant to comment on this when I first saw it, but time got away from me... This is a really wonderful image, a bit mysterious, and with that lovely golden brown/grayish blue color combination. Very sophisticated. Sorry to hear about your Mom's troubles. Those are tough decisions, but I'm sure you did the right thing. Have you read the book about Iris Murdoch? I think it was written by her husband, about what it was like to go through Alzheimer's with her. I found it very moving.

Victoria Cummings said...

Bill - You guys deserved some time on Block Island, and what a peaceful, beautiful time to go there. My mom, who is 93 and takes no meds, lives with us. She's losing her eyesight and her hearing and there are days when I think I'm losing my mind.So, you're advice about talking to your children is very wise. My parents never believed that they would get old - and my mom still doesn't. Your picture is elegant, love the brushes.